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Why You're About to Quit (And How to Stop): The 3-Step Framework That Turns Pain Into Purpose | Matt Bethot

• Alison Lager LCSW, CASAC • Episode 190

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Most of us are one decision away from giving up. We're at the breaking point, questioning if we're qualified, if our pain has purpose, if it's even worth continuing. And in that moment—when you're about to quit—everything changes. Or nothing does. It depends on what you choose next.

In this life-altering episode, mental health professional Alison Lager and voice coach Matt Berthot sit down to discuss the exact moment when most people walk away from their calling. They've both been there. Alison survived her husband's suicide, childhood abuse, eating disorders, and a murder trial. Matt inherited generational trauma from his grandfather's suicide and his father's alcoholism. Both were broken. Both were about to quit. Both chose differently.

And they're here to tell you: The moment you're about to quit is exactly when you must keep going.

But they're not just offering motivation. They're offering a framework—one rooted in neuroscience, Scripture, and lived experience—for what to do when the eclipse of despair gets too dark to see through.

You'll discover:

  • Why "God qualifies the called" means your inadequacy is the invitation
  • How the suicide mind works (and it's not what you think)
  • The one skill that prevents emotional collapse: emotional sobriety
  • The three-step framework that transforms your worst pain into your life's work
  • Why bigger growth always means bigger storms—and how to prepare
  • The Hadestown lesson: How to sing your sad song and still find hope
  • How to practice resilience in small moments so you have it in big crises
  • What happens when you finally say yes to that small, still voice inside you
  • Why receiving help is harder than giving it (and why that's destroying you)
  • The difference between reaction and response (it's a 10-second pause)

This episode is for anyone standing at the edge. For the burnt-out parent, struggling entrepreneur, the person in crisis. It's for people who've lost people to suicide. It's for people who've thought about it themselves.

Alison and Matt aren't here to tell you it gets easier. They're here to tell you it gets meaningful. And that changes everything.

🎧 Subscribe now—you might need this episode tomorrow
💬 Tell us in the comments: What's one reason you almost quit?
📤 Share this with someone who's at their breaking point

Connect with Matt Berthot:
Website: https://voicebymatt.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/voicebymatt/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/matt-berthot-b836a49
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@voiceby

Connect with Alison:

⚠️ Crisis Resources:
Lager Counseling Services
Call: 516-221-2123
Text: (914) 363-0381
Wantagh: 3408 Park Ave. Wantagh, NY 11793

988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (24/7, free, confidential)
Call or text 988 | Visit 988lifeline.org

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